Young men are taught to detach from the women in their lives. Think about that. They are taught to:
- Detach from their moms and sisters
- Don’t be a sissy or a pussy
- Get as much pussy as you can
- Definitely lie to her as needed. She doesn’t matter. I do.
- She’s a conquest or a pacifier (not a human, or a listener/ witness to your existence, a person equal in God’s eyes, in value to you). You should probably woo her, control things with her (rather than an honest transparent relating).
- Now teach that to your children. Hint: They know it even if you don’t say, your values as evidenced by your behavior. They see the disrespect of another human(s), female. They feel it in their gut. Don’t kid yourself. This is what they are learning from you, how to damage fellow humans, and they will model you like like baby ducklings, promise.
- Do a little predictive analysis on that and see what kind of world you get. Hint: It is hostile to women, minorities and people with differences. Also, believe you are better than they are, and impress them with your own privileged, not necessarily genetic, brilliance, instead of humbly realizing you aren’t all knowing, or better, or are not valuing, honoring, respecting another human’s perspectives, intelligence, skills etc..
- Don’t address that in counseling because you are not stuck. You don’t need to meet your potential for good (real human, not superficial) in your life. Your kids also know what commitment to that would feel like in their gut as well (more secure, more fair, more respectful more positively effecting their whole lives).
- Your daughters (all daughters, hypothetical or otherwise, nieces, granddaughters) will be unsafe, lied to, treated less than, and possibly fighting people like you for the rest of your life and hers, and vulnerable to the violence created by misogyny, a system that you endorse based on behavior.
- You will not be on the right side of history. You embody misogyny, and you are not qualified to say otherwise. Not right now. Not yet. Not you. Not at this time.
- There is no integrity if you ever need or want a woman for anything (because you don’t respect them or treat them as valuable, as a pattern, so your interest is a lie, soon to end, patterned) and your kids will be likely struggle in relationships because they have no good model of the behaviors that are needed to create that. You have stolen that from them, because there are a lot of men who could do them better, values-wise, integrity-wise, teaching them to love and respect holistically with integrity.
- Did I mention integrity
- Your kids and grandkids will likely pay the price for your inability to address the inequity, and misogynist ties to racism.
Less than 49% of the world are men, now subtract minorities
(when you tie the link to racism).
Therefore less than 49 of the world (now we are talking about white men) because of the brown people who are treated poorly are not in your purview and receive violence as a result of this same belief system.
What does that mean regarding children’s ability to be in a real relationship? Kills it. There is no ability. No foundation. No skill, no value of partnership and connection, no emotional intelligence; no physical safety or commitment required in the creation of a lifetime of real love for you and yours. No capability here. It is not valued, and neither is integrity threaded through the (possibly broken and pieces in disrepair) of you. A walking piece of flesh that is ok with hurting many people over time. How does that sound on linked in, or on a headstone. Rhetorical question.
And don’t even get me started about if I put your pictures on this article, and don’t stay silent like these behaviors work to silence her, all of them, a woman’s version of her story with you.
Thank God for #metoo and the women who are sharing the names, photos and experiences/ stories of the people who choose to be billowing toxic behaviors wherever they go, effecting so many of us.
I am so tempted to post it all, like you do. My experience of you on the inter-web, for all to see the toxicity and harm you do others. I’m guessing female coworkers might respond differently should they hear women’s stories and see your public vanity and false pride with your toxic belief system and behavior, commitment to it, your presumed value set, and your dick pics.
Even a warning on professional sites in professional circles just to warn the girls and women you lie in wait to take advantage of. Way to inspire human anger. A hell of a legacy to pass down and to represent your loved ones. That’s a lovely way to get to world peace, or feeding the world as if integrity mattered. It doesn’t based on your behaviors. #goingtheotherdirectionbychoice
You’ve been rewarded for your sexism/misogyny. You’ve been educated officially now, and remember you are brilliant so no excuses for your brain should be able to handle the challenge, should you choose to address it. You can’t say you don’t know, even if you didn’t read a book. No excuses about not having heard.
I am refraining from posting your picture or a list of lies, which is more than you can say for your relationship ranting on social media. I think your ex spared you the social media skewering you deserved after posting your rant about her.
I’m blown away at the way this went. I’m blown Away at the feigning of a guiding set of personal values of your own. I’m posting because I’m angry as hell at you and the effed up system that created a human that chooses to be a damage machine. You can thank me for my restraint. I can write my life experience as it relates to you on social media too, and post pictures. This is restraint in my view that this doesn’t look more like a warning billboard splashed everywhere with your Pinterest half dick pick on it. That would be great on your resume ffs. Women love that sh**.
If nothing else, this is a challenge to you in hopes you find better values to embody, stop hurting others with your choices. IMO
you will have a better life. If I didn’t care I wouldn’t say so. Good luck. It matters. The people you lead also deserve a leader with integrity. They look up to you.
#integritymatters
#othersmatter
#congratulationsyouaretheoppressor
#fuckthedownwardspiralofmisogenistbullshit
#educated
#bethechange
#ourchildrendeserveabetterlegacy
I have never written an article before, and am writing because world change starts with speaking up to injustices, and the hypocrisy of silencing others. We should all speak and be heard. If those you lie to all spoke up, I think your Instagram would catch fire.
I hope they speak, and that dick shrivels up ‘til it can serve a man with more brains and more integrity as fast as he can grab hold.
Good luck.